What we think about is what we see. Many studies and researches came to the same results that the neural paths we are using the most are the strongest and the strongest ones get lighted easier. But you might not trust the scientests. See what regular people, students of happiness or recognized success teachers says about goal achieving, focus, determination, mind clarity and selective attention.
In one of his last books British author of heroic fantasy and philosopher David Gemmell writes about a civilization of superhumen doomed to their end after the global catastrophe. In this epic novel he manages to prove that no matter how powerful you are there are certain principes which still apply and shape our destinies. Let me quote few paragraphs from the book to show the wisdom which can help you improve your live.
Today I have read an article that everyone we met is brought into our life intentionally. Strange it may sound but actually it perfectly fit to the claim of my previous post about selective attention. When we encounter someone we immediately form some opinion about them and it mirrors the filters we have set up in our own brain.
Do you think that a million on a bank account or a new car or partner will make you happy forever after? It will probably. For a while. Because happiness is a living creature and it doesn't reside at one place. Is it possible to be always happy? Actually yes, but you have to understand one thing - The Spiral of Happiness.
Why is it so hard to learn a new thing but you cannot quit an annoying habit? It can be all explained by the neural paths in your brain; Though most of us are not neurology expert and thus Vera Birkenbihl from Germany offers us an analogy of our brain function using a simple fishing net. Its knowledge can enhance your learning, goal achieving and can be used for explaining SelectiveAttention.
"Quite good, you swim, little boy," he started with compliment not to completely destroy my self-confidence and then he continued: "The hands are terrible, you don't use your legs and the body should be stretched." And in that moment my ego spoke: ...
"It's like that with the red ball, it's the difficult one," you hear after you missed a shot in a pool game. "I struggled to score that one in the last game," observe a friend and it doesn't seem to do any harm. But...
Next time you aim at the red, your might hear a silent voice in the background repeating: "The difficult one." You start to sweat and your hand will tremble a bit and the more you try to suppress that the stronger it is. The prophecy got fulfilled itself because without knowing that it's hard to shot the red you would just play it without problems.
Personal development is very ... personal. Each of us is unique personality with our own history and right now we are at our own personal position. It's like a computer game - SuperMario stands at the edge of an abyss and he has to jump. Thought you always press the same buttons the jumps would be different when Mario has to hit the stream of uplifting hot air and when he must catch a liana to swing down to the other end.
In your own life you have to recognize where you are and how to move forward. Someone would jump over the river, others will swim, hire the boat or go find the bridge. You might decide that you rather turn back and stay on your side of the stream.