Why each meeting is a message for us?

Today I have read an article that everyone we met is brought into our life intentionally.  Strange it may sound but actually it perfectly fit to the claim of my previous post about selective attention. When we encounter someone we immediately form some opinion about them and it mirrors the filters we have set up in our own brain.

Louise Watson, author of the book Stop Making Your Life a Misery, talks in her article about projection and how people we meet reflects our thoughts and mindset. When we acknowledge that it’s our doing that brought them to our life and that they are there for the purpose we often quickly find an answer why – because we were doing something we consider wrong (usually unconsciously), something we want to avoid or on the brighter side to help us with something we want to achieve.

We notice what we think of

Let’s forget for a moment about the Law of attraction and consider our brain only. Assume that you absolutely randomly meet someone. What will you notice? According to selectiveattention rule you will of course notice things which are having the highest importance to you personally – strongest neural paths associated with this person are fired. If you look for answers you might notice a hint that this person can deliver them. If you have some fears they might be embodied by this person or by their behavior towards us. They might not even do anything offensive but we may interpret it like that.
We might deny it or we can accept that something is happening and ask why we noticed this? Brain is usually quick to give us answers. What is usually slow is our acceptance of this message and our action based on it.

Others' opinions are about them not us

Selective attention also mean that we don’t need to worry about others’ opinions. They don’t see us, but they see the message they need to receive. If we deliver the best speech in our life but someone in the auditorium is afraid how their own speech would look like, they will be quick to notice flaws. If we remind them of someone they like they might appreciate us even though the speech was terrible. In the end it’s only important that we did our best. What picky brains of others will select to pay attention to is not our problem. It can be even our advantage which is well known fact by many marketing experts.

I have a final riddle for you? When you come across a group of people who will receive biggest portion of your attention? 

Neural networks and selective attention

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